Sex

/sɛks/

noun

  1. (chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse.
  2. either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.
    “adults of both sexes”

Sex is one of the joys of being human! It also is capable of producing some of the most complicated emotions humans express. Consider how many religions and spiritual practices eschew sex. It is the original sin regardless of how you practice it and orgasm produces chemicals that feel good and you want to feel that way all the time.

When sex is a problem. Sex becomes a problem when it interferes with your stasis function. By stasis function, I am referring to the ability to contribute to society and enjoy your life, as you know it. Stasis disruption with sexual dysfunction can result in behaviors and patterns that require treatment. Obsession, addiction, and avoidance can be manifestations of issues around sex.

I believe in a sex positive whatever floats your boat type sex, provided you are maintaining healthy relationships, you are not hurting others, and you are not engaging in undue risk taking, emotionally or physically. This podcast and these resources are not about shame! They are based solidly on self love and acceptance. My podcasts and blogs on Sex are all about learning to have a healthy relationship sex, enjoying it, and making the most out of what you have!

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