Salvation

sal-ˈvā-shən

noun

  1. preservation or deliverance from harm, ruin, or loss.
  2. preservation from destruction or failure
  3. deliverance from danger or difficulty

Praise be Recovery! If you are really and truly tired of sleepless nights of anxiety and overanalyzing, numbing with drugs and alcohol, then feeling like shit because you know you are numbing, and being on the brink of disaster multiple times per year, or per day, from addiction or disorders relating to love and sex. This is the sextion of the site where I give you some of my best tips to save yourself.

Are you ready to be saved? Consider these questions and answers below carefully. If you aren’t really ready to change who you are, maybe come back to this when you are.
HE/She/They Say- I Say
You Say, this feels like it is work.
I say: This takes Practice. These tips take time to work and you are probably going to fuck them up because it is more comfortable to use known behaviors and defaults, but that is ok. You practice..
You say: Is it forever?
I say: Maybe.
You Say: Does it change me?
I Say: Probably. But do you really like yourself this way?

Listen, if you are defining yourself by your trauma, you are not going to like this work and chances are you will quit. If you are sick of your trauma defining you and want to find peace, then you try these techniques described in these podcasts and blog

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