Sex Addiction is
not about Sex
Welcome to Undressing the Issue
My podcast is a resource for my patients, recovering sex addicts, partners of addicts, and those suffering from sex and gender related trauma. Basically, anyone looking to learn more about sexual identity, the field of sex therapy, and how to tackle problems that are holding you back from attaining and sustaining healthy relationships.
My approach is sex positive and irreverent so when I preach about sex, sabotage, and salvation, it is not meant to offend anyone and if this offends you, please consider another podcast. Please consider this space a forum for going deep into our issues, identities, and the constructions that we are operating within. Be considerate of participants commenting and please submit your comments and suggestions across social media, and on the site! All are welcome here! If you are looking to book a session and learn more about my specific treatment plans visit www.julialmft.com.
Episode 032: How to Properly Apologize: Sorry, Not Sorry addresses apologies that really miss the mark. There are some key components to a sincere apology and I see the repercussions of bad apologies all the time. A poor apology leads to resentment and rarely to improved behavior or is indicative of true change on behalf
031: The FOO Family of Origin and You with Julia LMFT is a pillar podcast. The way we developed from an early age in our family or origin, including mothers and fathers, mothers and mothers, grandparents, or adoptive parents, have a significant impact on how we interact in relationships today and how we express needs.
Relationship OCD, what is it, do I have it? This podcast subject was suggested by a follower on Instagram and it is so relevant with today’s dating climate. Let’s dive in briefly: Who is the person with Relationship OCD? Someone who is constantly questioning their relationships. Is this as good as it gets? OCD is
Self Care with Julia LMFT explores; What is Self Care? Where does it come from? Why do we need it? I explore this topic this week. It actually derives from a needs pyramid, so we go over that too. I also break down what a good routine looks like and a bad one and the
New Years Eve with Top Los Angeles Sex Therapist Julia Alperovich! What do I do on New Year’s Eve? I certainly do not make resolutions, but I do make lists and practice reflections. I will take some lessons with me and leave some behind. Some things you may not even know you accomplished, so it
Communication Lessons with LA Based Therapist Julia Alperovich LMFT. FINALLY!!! The Communication Episode! It is high time that I give a talk about communication. It impacts every facet of our personal and professional relationships and poor communication skills can wreck both. Here are some styles of communication and ways to check your own methods for
Trauma. What is it? Is a big event, assault, home burning down, or abuse the only cause of trauma? What about lots of small hurts? In this episode of Undressing the Issue, I break down trauma. From diagnostics, symptoms, how we might not perceive behaviors as PTSD, and how to recognize when we need help.
What is External Validation, Why do we seek it, How can it help us, How can it hurt us? I dive into all the ways external validation can be a great tool and also a real saboteur to relationships. If it is attention-seeking, it can be a lot to take and can develop into a
What happens in therapy, exactly? Is it pillow punching, blaming mom, awkward hugging for hours on end? No, well not all the time. Modern therapeutic practices vary widely from what they are popularly imagined. Goops not doing us any favors removing stigmas around therapy either. Tune in to find out what really happens in therapy,
Is my Partner an Addict, or just an Asshole? This is one of the most common questions I get asked in sessions by betrayed partners. The answer is not simple. In this episode of Undressing the Issue, I dive into the question, the underlying feelings, and the way forward from this question. Spoiler alert, in
Anger. Where it comes from, What we can do about it. Is it natural? Julia LMFT Undresses the Issues around ANGER, offering tools to reframe, without shame, the way we are understanding one another and anger, without judgment. This is a must listen. #blacklivesmatter #blacktranslivesmatter If you are feeling anger as a result of pain
Sex Addiction 101 with Julia Alperovich LMFT is the 21st episode of Undressing the Issue Podcast and Julia explains what sex addiction is, what are some of the underlying causes or theories surrounding it, how loved ones can seek help, and how addicts can seek help. Explore what recovery options and learn more about the
What’s better than coffee talk? Coffee talk with therapists about covert rage, entitlement, and dick pics. Welcome to my Interview with Dr. Kate Balestrieri. We discuss dating and dick pics, along with latent emotions that are behind the craze. Tune in for more! Zoom appointments still available at www.julialmft.com Youtube Soundcloud Love Dr. Kate Baletrieri?
Julia LMFT interviews former phone sex operator and colleague Monifa Ellis-Addie MA, AMFT. Tune in as they undress issues in their field. Who they are, how they got into the field of sex and relationship therapy, and what some of the current issues they face. Special deep dive into Betrayal Trauma and Sex Addiction. Youtube
Julia LMFT defines the triggers and physiological responses to triggers during Covid 19 pandemic. Julia LMFT explores the ways that access to resources, change in routine, and group think can be triggers for past trauma and offers plans and tips to get yourself back to stasis. Contact www.julialmft.com for appointments on Zoom or remote, and
Betrayal traumas are hard to read sometimes and therapists get triggered too. I have been going through some complex emotions related to past trauma that I share on this podcast episode. Here are my top tips to finding a way up and out of paralyzing emotions. Knowing yourself is always paramount to knowing your trauma
Valentine’s Day 2020 is Friday and what better way to gear up for romance than to listen to a podcast that unearths ancient truths and laments the current state of this saccharine and commercialized holiday. Julia undresses the issues around obligations, exclusion, trauma, and suggests how couples may feel closer on this holiday, and every
Goop Lab Episode 3 tackled some very controversial issues in their Netflix Special and Julia Alperovich LMFT dives right in to deconstruct the pop culture expose of the vulva and female orgasm. This podcast episode is a spoiler for the Goop Lab Episode, beware, and Julia touches on some of the more complicated aspects of
Personalization Cognitive Distortion: It is not all about you Personalization Cognitive Distortion: It is not all about you is a quick roadmap to what is and is not about you. Personalization is one of many cognitive distortions that can reak havoc on your relationships. It reaks the most havoc on your relationship with yourself. If
Welcome to the 2020 Self Care Holiday Edition: You Soothe You. Its’ been quite a year. The last thing ANYONE needs is to feel even worse, and then come the holidays. If you have not already, take a watch on my Youtube for a special message, click here, and read below for strategies to soothe
What is trauma? As a therapist, when I refer to trauma, I am referring to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Here I am going to discuss what this is comprised of and what the determinations are for this diagnosis. What is Big T Trauma A lot of people think of dramatic events that have left an
Dear You-Know-Who-You-Are, It has been 9 years since we ended our marriage and went our separate ways. The way in which our marriage ended was the most traumatic thing I have ever been through. It broke me. Over the last 9 years, I have worked diligently to heal emotionally, mentally, financially, spiritually and physically
How to Deal with a Toxic Primary Caregiver offers techniques to better understand and cope with caregivers who have a way with words. Oftentimes, the focus of therapy moves into our upbringing and it can begin to sound like our parents are blamed for most of our problems. The fact of the matter is that
Once upon a time, 50 pounds ago, I was a bright-eyed and bushy-tailed 22 year old woman. I had just graduated from college and I was in an abusive relationship. My boyfriend was a law-school student and an alcoholic. He was really possessive and really really unstable. He never actually put his hands on me,